Be a Loving father in Nurturing your Child!

A father's love contributes as much and sometimes more to a child's development as does a mother's love. That is one of many findings in a new large-scale analysis of research about the "power of parental rejection and acceptance in shaping our personalities as children and into adulthood".
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"In our half-century of international research, we've not found any other class of experience that has as strong and consistent effect on personality and personality development as does the experience of rejection, especially by parents in childhood," says Ronald Rohner of the University of Connecticut, co-author of the new study in Personality and Social Psychology Review.

"Children and adults everywhere -- regardless of differences in race, culture, and gender -- tend to respond in exactly the same way when they perceived themselves to be rejected by their parents, caregivers and other attachment figures."
Looking at 36 studies from around the world that together involved more than 10,000 participants, Rohner and co-author Abdul Khaleque found that in response to rejection by their parents, children tend to feel more anxious and insecure, as well as more hostile and aggressive toward others.

The pain of rejection -- especially when it occurs over a period of time in childhood -- tends to linger into adulthood, making it more difficult for adults who were rejected as children to form secure and trusting relationships with their intimate partners. The studies are based on surveys of children and adults about their parents' degree of acceptance or rejection during their childhood, coupled with questions about their personality dispositions.

Moreover, Rohner says, emerging evidence from the past decade of research in psychology and neuroscience is revealing that the same parts of the brain are activated when people feel rejected as are activated when they experience physical pain. "Unlike physical pain, however, people can psychologically re-live the emotional pain of rejection over and over for years," Rohner says.

When it comes to the impact of a father's love versus that of a mother, results from more than 500 studies suggest that while children and adults often experience more or less the same level of acceptance or rejection from each parent, the influence of one parent's rejection -- oftentimes the father's -- can be much greater than the other's. A 13-nation team of psychologists working on the International Father Acceptance Rejection Project has developed at least one explanation for this difference: that children and young adults are likely to pay more attention to whichever parent they perceive to have higher interpersonal power or prestige. So if a child perceives her father as having higher prestige, he may be more influential in her life than the child's mother. Work is ongoing to better understand this potential relationship.

One important take-home message from all this research, Rohner says, is that fatherly love is critical to a person's development. The importance of a father's love should help motivate many men to become more involved in nurturing child care. Additionally, he says, widespread recognition of the influence of fathers on their children's personality development should help reduce the incidence of "mother blaming" common in schools and clinical setting. "The great emphasis on mothers and mothering in America has led to an inappropriate tendency to blame mothers for children's behavior problems and maladjustment when, in fact, fathers are often more implicated than mothers in the development of problems with these children".

Source: ScienceDaily (12th June, 2012)

Do you want to help your children?

Dear Parents!
Do you want to help ensure your children turn out to be happy, composed and socially well adjusted?
Then Bond with them when they are infants!

This is the message from a study by the University of Iowa, which found that infants who have a close, intimate relationship with a parent are less likely to be troubled, aggressive or experience other emotional and behavioral problems when they reach their school age. 

Surprisingly, the researchers found that a young child needs to feel particularly secure with only one parent to reap the benefits of stable emotions and behavior, and that being attached to dad is just as helpful as being close to mom.

The study bolsters the still-debated role of the influence that a parent can exercise at the earliest stages in a child's mental and emotional development, the authors contend in the paper, published in the journal Child Development.

"There is a really important period when a mother or a father should form a secure relationship with their child, and that is during the first two years of life. That period appears to be critical to the child's social and emotional development," says Sanghag Kim, a post-doctoral researcher in psychology at the UI who collaborated with UI psychology professor Grazyna Kochanska on the study. "At least one parent should make that investment."

The researchers assessed the relationship of 102 infants (15 months old) with a parent and then followed up with 86 of them when they reached age 8. Separate surveys of the parents and the child were taken at that time. The infants and parents were drawn from a broad spectrum of income, education, and race. All the couples were heterosexual.

The authors also solicited feedback from teachers about the children, which ranged from concerns about inner emotions, such as worry or sadness, to more outward displays, such as disobedience and aggression. Interestingly, the children's reports and their teachers' impressions were similar; yet they differed, sometimes greatly, from the parents' evaluations.














"Parents and teachers have different perspectives," Kim explains. "They observe children in different contexts and circumstances. That is why we collected data from many informants who know the child."

The researchers were surprised to find out that infants who had felt attached to both parents did not enjoy additional mental and emotional advantages into childhood, compared to those who had been close to one parent. The UI psychologists' best explanation is that a warm, secure, and positive bond with at least one primary caregiver may be enough to meet the child's need for security and to provide a solid foundation for development.

Other studies have contended that being secure with both parents can have additional advantages; this study, however, checked in with the children when they were older and their outcomes could be more fully measured than those surveyed in previous work, the Iowa researchers said.

The study appears to be good news for single mothers and stay-at-home dads, two marked parenting shifts that are defining this generation. Kim says the study shows that either parent can serve as a secure, attachment figure for the infant, thus providing the closeness and support to promote the child's healthy emotional growth.

"Some people think the father is not good enough to be the primary caregiver," says Kim, who earned his doctorate in sociology at the UI last year. "Our data show otherwise."

The study did not directly sample single mothers, as all families included two parents. Still, the finding that one parent can provide the tight bond and emotional dividends as two parents "is a good sign," Kim says, that should be studied further.

On the other end, the study showed that infants who had not felt secure with either parent were more likely to report worries, fears, and aggression when they reached their school age. 

Source: ScienceDaily (11th Oct 2012)

1000s of Psy-Challenges & Our YozenMind Remedies!!

Yozen Mind Counseling Center in Chennai was Estd in 1992 and has cured 1001 kind of Psycho-Challenges from various people. Yozen relieves your life-long Stress, Marital issues, Fears, Phobias in Students & Professionals, wipes out Guilt feeling, Bad habits, Lack of concentration, Anxiety, Depression, Suicidal feelings, Undue Anger, Obsessive disorders, Behavioral problems, illusion, Delusion and several hidden mind related challenges. Here, we are applying successful new methods in Counseling psychology along with Hypnotherapy and YoZen Mind Therapy, positively motivated 1000s of people in all age groups from different segments across the country.

The Psychological challenges which the youngsters are facing to-day!

These are just samples from 1000 kinds of people and their psy-challenges we addressed and cured completely! These examples never represent a particular person or particular history but in general only, to make you aware what are all the types of challenges we deal and heal here! As it is highly ethical and a strict rule in psychology, we never reveal any one's inner treasure at any circumstances. (Images courtesy: Google)

 1. She was, right from her kinder garden, has always been a class-topper, and in Std X public examination she secured School First as all expected. But, suddenly she is stubborn to be at home and unwilling to continue her Std XI. Why? What is the remedy?

 2. They are recently married couple and resembles, a pair made-for-each-other. At first everything was right in place and was going smooth. But, now they are insisting for a mutual-divorce. Why? How to unite them?

 3. A well educated and highly positioned professional, suddenly wants to end his life. He does not have any valid reason in his conscious mind to do so. But the impulse keeps arising within. Why? How to save his life?

 4. He is the most handsome guy and who recently joined a reputed college. Hardly a week or two passed by, he just shunned that college for no reason found. Why? What is the solution?

 5. Her husband is earning a decent income in an abroad country. She is looking after their children in her home town now. Though her husband and children are amicable in nature, she keeps herself tensed and dwells in unknown depressions. Why? How to relieve her?

 6.  He is hailing from a middle income family and the members are depending upon him. Though he is more liable and responsible towards his duties, he is unable to continue any job for more than a few months. Why? What is the solution?

7.  She is young, good looking and knowledgeable among her colleagues. She goes little beyond her limits when moving with men at work. Though she knows it, she is unable to control her behaviour. Why? How to control herself?

 8.  He was graduated from one of the world renowned university in United states. He worked there for few years and returned back to India. Though he acquires all the skills and experience to join a reputed firm, he hesitates and prefers for a small one with meagre salary. Why? How to fine tune his thinking pattern?

 9.  He is an athlete with good physique. Though he seems manly and courageous outwardly he trembles and shivers inward on seeing a group of people walking towards him. Why? How to eliminate his unknown fear?

 10.  He is a senior officer in his work-station and is perfect in every thing. But, he used to complain to his acquaintance that someone is constantly whispering into his ears with abusive slang for no reason!! True? Why he feel so? Solution if any? 

                                   (More Challenges to be added up.....)

Yozen Balki interview in print media - 2

Malai Murasu - Arokya Magazine

Year not known

must be between 1996-98

Sneha Monthly

Oct 1998

Will continue to publish the old archives...
Let me not miss something.
Becuz, many thing have been missed in the past!


-YozenBalki 

Yozen Balki's interview in print media - 1

Kungumam Tamil Weekly Magazine

17.4.1998

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                                                                   October 1998

More magz will continue....

-Yozen Balki

Imagine the Stress on our Mother Earth !

The Danger of high-rise buildings...

and the stress imposed on our mother earth!

The concentrated impluse and the thrust we impose through high-rised buildings are creating the inner turmoil in the tender layers of earth!

Not only buildings..the more we crave for material comforts, we byproduce a lot more wastages and toxins on this planet. The result would be the powdered sand dunes and the life-less deserts!!

-Mohan Balki

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Advise shall be like a salt in the food!!

Once upon a time there was a town where no salt was invented yet!

When it came to market for the first time, the price was too high and equivalent to Gold!!

A royal cook found it was good and started putting it a little in the food.

When the King found it was tasty and knew the secret, they started buying hills of salt rose up like mountains!! When the cook started pouring rathals of salt in to everyone's meal, there was only salt and salt and was no meal in to it!! When it became the habit and fashion of the Town for decades, the Health Ministry found there were all temper and ravages among people which lead to undue fights and untimely cardio- vascular deaths!!

Yes! Salt is Salt and should be a pinch in to your bunch!!

Dear Parents!

Advise is like a salt in the food!!

Put it a little!

Do not ever put it too much in to the food of your children !!

1.  They will vomit all your food.

2.  If at all consumed, it is going to arouse their Blood pressure and other dis-eases in the near future.

3.  They, in turn would do it to their children and will continue spreading the Dis-ease to the next and next generations!!!!

Just read and know the words of  Kahlil Gibran,

On Children
 
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

         ( How sweet he says in his golden words....vow...great)

-Mohan Balki

Top 100 Psychological Words & Meaning

Words/Term	Meaning
Absolute threshold	Intensity level at which one can detect a stimulus 50% of the time
Action potential	The electrical process by which information is transmitted the length of an axon
Aggression	Overt or suppressed hostility, either innate or resulting from continued frustration and directed outward or against oneself
Anxiety disorders	Mental problems characterized mainly by anxiety. They include panic disorder, specific phobias, and obsessive compulsive disorders.
Associationism	Any of several theories that explain complex psychological phenomena as being built up from the association of simple sensations, stimuli and responses, or other behavioral or mental elements considered as primary
Attachment	Theory developed by Harlow; types include secure and insecure
Attitude	A relatively enduring evaluation of a person or thing; Asch demonstrated that this doesn't always match one's behavior
Attribution theory	Way of explaining others' behavior by either one's disposition or one's situation
Avoidance learning	Avoidance learning is the process by which an individual learns a behavior or response to avoid a stressful or unpleasant situation.
Behavior	A perspective on psychology that sees psychology as an objective science without reference to mental states
Binocular depth cues	Retinal disparity and convergence which enable people to determine depth using both eyes
Central nervous system	Consists of the brain and the spinal cord
Cerebellum:	Brain structure that controls well-learned motor activities like riding a bike
Cerebral cortex	The fabric of interconnecting cells that blankets the brain hemispheres; the brain's center for information processing and control
Cerebral hemispheres	Either of the two symmetrical halves of the cerebrum, designated right and left; in mammals, the cerebral hemispheres are connected by the corpus callosum, a transverse band of nerve fibers
Classical conditioning	Method of learning in which a neutral stimulus can be used to elicit a response that is usually a natural response to a stimulus
Cognitive development	Is defined as thinking, problem solving, concept understanding, information processing and overall intelligence
Cognitive dissonance theory	A highly motivating state in which people have conflicting cognitions, especially when their voluntary actions conflict with their attitudes
Conditioned stimulus	In classical conditioning, a previously neutral stimulus that comes to elicit he conditioned response
Conditioned reflex	A new or modified response elicited by a stimulus after conditioning, also known as a conditioned response
Conformity	Adjusting behavior to meet a group's standard
Consciousness	One's awareness of one's environment and oneself
Contrast	The phenomenon that when two different but related stimuli are presented close together in space and/or time they are perceived as being more different than they really are
Control group	Subjects in an experiment who do not receive application of the independent variable but are measured nonetheless for the dependent variable
Correlation coefficient	A positive one near 1.0 indicates two variable are positively related; a negative number indicates a negative relationship; zero indicates no relationship
Correlational method	A type of research that is mainly statistical in nature; also, correlational studies determine relationship between two variables
Dendrite	A branch off the cell body of a neuron that receives new information from other neurons
Deoxyribonucleic acid	The complex substance that is the main carrier of genetic information for all organisms and a major component of chromosomes
Dependent variable	The variable that the experimenter measures at the end of the experiment
Depression	A psychiatric disorder characterized by an inability to concentrate, insomnia, loss of appetite, feelings of extreme sadness, helplessness, etc.
Depth perception	An ability that we exercise by using both monocular and binocular cues
Determinism:	The scientific doctrine that all occurrences in nature take place in accordance with natural laws
Developmental stages:	Periods of life initiated by significant transitions or changes in psychical or psychological functioning
Distance cues	In order to receive information from the environment we are equipped with sense organs e. g. eye, ear, nose; each sense organ is part of a sensory system which receives sensory inputs and transmits sensory information to the brain
Ego	The Latin for "I"; in Freud's theories, the mediator between the demands of the id and the superego
Electroencephalograph	A method of representation of brain waves
Empiricism	A system of acquiring knowledge that rejects all o priori knowledge and relies solely upon observation, experimentation, and induction
Etiology	The study of the causes for and origin of any phenomena, also spelled aetiology.
Evolution	A perspective that stresses the value of behavior in Darwinian terms
Experimental group	In an experiment, the group that is exposed to the treatment, that is, to one version of the independent variable
Extinction	In classical conditioning, the process of eliminating the previously acquired association of the conditioned stimulus and conditioned response
Extroversion	One of the Big Five, a personality trait orients one's interests toward the outside world and other people, rather than inward
Forgetting curve	A graph plotting the amount of retention and forgetting over time for a certain batch of material, such as list of syllables; a typical curve is steep first, becoming flatter as time goes on
Free association	A clinical technique of psychoanalysis devised by Sigmund Freud
Free recall	An individual attends to previously processed stimuli (i.e. words, sounds, numbers, etc) and uses subjective organization to retrieve the memories in categories
Frequency	A theory of hearing which states that the rate of nerve impulses traveling up the auditory nerve matches the tone's frequency
Functionalism	William James's school of thought that stressed the adaptive and survival value of behaviors
Gestalt	A German word for "whole", it refers to our tendency to perceive incomplete figures as complete
Gestalt Psychology	Sought to understand how the brain works by studying perception, arguing that percepts consist of meaningful wholes (in German, Gestalts)
Hypothesis	A prediction of how the an experiment will turn out
Id	In Freud's conception, the repository of the basic urges toward sex and aggression
Independent variable	A type of variable manipulated by the experimenter
Information processing	Humans accomplish this either in parallel (unconsciously) or in serial fashion (consciously)
Instrumental behavior	Is a concept stemming from the Behaviorist movement, which asserts that disorders are learned responses to traumatic experiences
Intelligence	The ability to learn from experience, to use information, to understand things
Intelligence quotient	The average is 100; there are many definitions of this attribute, including multiple and crystallized
Introversion	A personality trait that signifies that one finds energy from internal sources rather than external ones
Just noticeable difference	The threshold at which one can distinguish two stimuli that are of different intensities, but otherwise identical
Law of effect	Thorndike's rule that behaviors which have positive outcomes tend to be repeated
Long term memory	Refers to memory that is stored effectively in the brain and may be accessed over an extended period of time
Longitudinal research	A type of study in which one group of subjects is followed and observed (or examined, surveyed, etc.) for an extended period of time (years)
Meaning	Meaning is communicated through the use of language, (and has to do with the distribution of signs in sign relations (symbols), while in a relationship between ontology and truth, and as a reference or equivalence)
Mental illness	A psychological or physiological pattern that occurs in an individual and is usually associated with distress or disability that is not expected as part of normal development or culture.
Mental imagery	A mental representation that mirrors or resembles the thing it represents; mental images can occur in many and perhaps all sensory modalities
Nature vs. nurture	The long-standing discussion over the relative importance of nature (heredity) and nurture (environment) in their influence on behavior and mental processes
Neocortex	The newer portion of the cerebral cortex that serves as the center of higher mental functions for humans.
Neurotransmitter	A chemical that is released by a neuron for the purpose of carrying information across the gaps (synapses) between neurons
Normal distribution	Describes a symmetrical, bell shaped curve that shows the distribution of many physical and psychological attributes
Obedience	Is a form of social influence where an individual acts in response to a direct order from another individual, who is usually an authority figure
Operant conditioning	A method of influencing behavior by rewarding desired behaviors and punishing undesired ones
Origins of Species	Book by Charles Darwin where he discusses the theory of "natural selection of spices," where he coined the term "survival of the fittest"
Personality	A consistent pattern of thinking, acting, feeling
Phobias	A group of anxiety disorders involving a pathological fear of a specific object or situation
Placebo effect	Phenomenon that some people get better even though they receive not medication but an inert substance which should have no medical effect
Positive reinforcement	A stimulus presented after a response and increasing the probability of that response happening again
Prejudice	A negative attitude formed toward an individual or group without sufficient experience with the person or group
Pro-social behavior	Positive, constructive, helpful behavior; the opposite of antisocial behavior
Psychoanalytic theory	Freud's personality theory, basis for his therapeutic technique called Psychoanalysis
Psychosis	A disorder involving profound disturbances in perception, rational thinking, or affect
Psychosomatic disorder	Condition in which psychological stresses adversely affect physiological (somatic) functioning to the point of distress.
Psychotherapy	Psychotherapy is a general term for a process of treating mental and emotional disorders by talking about your condition and related issues with an educated, trained and licensed professional
Rehearsal	The conscious repetition of information, either to maintain it in consciousness or to encode it for storage
Reinforcement	Is an increase in the strength of a response following the change in environment immediately following that response
Right hemisphere	The cerebral hemisphere to the right of the corpus callosum that controls the left half of the body
Sample	Sampling is the process of selecting units (e.g., people, organizations) from a population of interest so that by studying the sample we may fairly generalize our results back to the population from which they were chosen.
Semantic memory	A subdivision of declarative memory that stores general knowledge, including the meaning of words and concepts
Serial position function	Refers to the concept of "magic seven," which stipulates that people normally remember the first seven items on a list, for example, after which recall they start forgetting the following items
Short-term memory	A system for temporarily storing and managing information required to carry out complex cognitive tasks such as learning, reasoning, and comprehension.
Significance level	The probability of a false rejection of the null hypothesis in a statistical test; also known as level of significance
Social influence	Is the change in behavior that one person causes in another, intentionally or unintentionally, as a result of the way the changed person perceives themselves in relationship to the influencer, other people and society in general
Socialization	The process by which children learn the behaviors, attitudes, and expectations required of them by their society or culture
Traits	A stable personality characteristics that are presumed to exist within the individual and guide his or her thoughts and actions under various conditions
Unconscious	In classical Freudian theory, the psychic domain of which the individual is not aware but that houses memories, desires, and feelings that would be threatening if brought to consciousness
Unconscious motivation	Having a desire to engage in an activity but being consciously unaware of the desire
Visual depth perception	The ability to perceive spatial relationships, especially distances between objects, in three dimensions

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